I’m sure you have heard the phrase that there is energy in everything. But it’s true, energy truly is in everything. It’s in the objects we hold onto, the things we consume, the people we spend time with and the environments we experience in. I know this may sound esoteric, but even we as human beings are made up of energy. Which is why we are, even without realizing it, are affected by energy so much.
It’s something that is important to pay attention to because if energy around us is depleting us then we will inevitably feel held back in life. Why you may ask? Because if you are even subconsciously expending energy throughout your days you will have less energy for the things in your life that truly matter. Energy is life. Energy is your time. Energy is everything.
The following 7 steps below are impactful and transformational ways of releasing any energy that holds you back from living your most fulfilling life.
Purge your closets
Whether we realize it or not, the things and objects we hold onto hold an energy. Things can hold a negative energy if you had a bad experience while either wearing that item of clothing or having that object in that experience.
One thing you can do to help cleanse the energy in your space is by clearing out items, such as clothing in your closet that either hold a negative, stagnant or just an old energy that does not resonate with you anymore.
It may be hard at first as we grow attachments to such items, but realize that they are just things and that by releasing such items will allow more space and energy for what’s to come. That includes making space for a new version of you.
You cannot fully become the new version of yourself you desire until you have fully let go of all the old energies from your past self. Any material items that may be from that past version of you, or hold a negative or stagnant energy, it’s time to release that.
Pay attention to your negative self talk
I have definitely been one guilty of having massive negative self talk. Why do we say such mean things to ourselves, yet speak so highly of others? If you grew up in a household where there was an abundance of criticism, you may have adopted that critical mindset of yourself.
Don’t beat yourself up or blame yourself for your past. There are reasons why you got to where you are today. But now is the time to switch the negative words you say about yourself, or compliments you deflect, to telling yourself all the positive and uplifting things that you need to hear. Talk to yourself like you would a really good friend or loved one.
If it’s easier, you can write these words down in your journal first to get in the practice and habit of it. Then start speaking these positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror as you get ready for the day, or write these words on sticky notes and place them around your house as gentle reminders. You can also set reminders on your phone to go off of the positive affirmations you need to hear.
Overtime, as this becomes a habit of replacing your old negative self-talk for a positive one, you will feel your energy lift. Your mood will feel lighter and you will soon begin to believe the positive things you say about yourself.
Protect your time — as time equals energy
Time. It is truly such a precious thing. I feel it especially slipping away since becoming a mother. Having a child is like a physical representation of time itself and how quickly it passes. But whether you are a parent or not, I’m sure you have felt the effects of time seemingly passing you by. The one thing about time is that no matter who you are, time passes equally for all. And as you get older you will see how more precious time becomes, and how even more imperative it becomes to protect it.
To protect your time you must first prioritize and decide what in your life is worth protecting your time over. Is it time with your loved ones? Time for yourself? Time to work on your dreams and goals? All of those are important things. Make a list of all the things in your life you need to prioritize and then select which of those things you can make time for in each of your days. If you do not make this intention for those things they may not happen. That is where boundary setting comes in.
In order to protect the time for things that are most important to you, you must set boundaries around them so the time does not get eaten away by other things. There will always be time for the things and people not on your priority list, but there won’t always be time for the things that are unless you make the time for them.
Be more intentional with what you feed your mind
Because energy is in everything, perhaps without you even realizing it, the things you feed your mind may be depleting and draining you. It is imperative especially for energy sensitive people to be cautious of what you consume and feed your mind. However, it is also important for everyone to pay more attention to the things you consume, because even on a subconscious level those things may be depleting your energy.
What types of things consumed may be depleting your energy? Things like pornography, too much social media, the news, gossip online, and watching too much violent content. The thrill of these things only lasts for a moment, but the energy depletion from it can take the rest of your day and so on. Especially if these things are consumed on a daily basis for several hours at a time, it’s enough energy depletion to nearly watch your life pass you by.
Instead of consuming these things filled with negative energy, instead try reading an uplifting book, or watching an uplifting movie. Go outside and listen to the birds sing. Have meaningful and deep conversations with those that you love. Listen to inspiring and uplifting music. Try meditation and/or listen to binaural beats or hertz music.
Anything that lifts your mood and gives you more energy afterwards, not less is an energy giving thing. The more positive things you can consume throughout your days will ultimately help you feel more alive and fulfilled in your life.
Forgive
Forgiveness. This is such a hard one. I know firsthand. I will be honest and tell you that there will be people in your life that you love so deeply that have hurt you, cut your heart and made you cry, but never once apologized. They made you feel worse about feeling the way you did, like you were the problem, like something was wrong with you, yet never recognized their own faults.
But forgiveness does not mean what they did was ok, nor does it mean you have to tell them in person if they did not apologize to you. You can just feel it in your heart or even write out a letter to them and then burn it or throw it away. The purpose of forgiveness is to help mend your heart. It’s to help release any resentment or bitterness you may hold. Those emotions will only eat away at your heart.
Forgiveness helps release what was done to you and help you move forward. It does not mean you forget and that pain may still be there, but the energy of anger or resentment will be released. One thing I have learned on this healing journey is that you cannot change others, they will grow and evolve only if they desire to. It is your responsibility to protect yourself from those that hurt you moving forward, and let the gift of forgiveness be a healing tool to release any negative energy you still hold from past hurts.
Protect yourself from negative and energy draining people
This one may be hard to learn to distance and eliminate people in your life who are sucking or draining your energy, but I promise you that you will feel the most immediate effects after doing so. How to do this is first take note of anyone in your life who you notice you just feel drained or depleted after spending time with them.
Are there people in your life where the relationship is very one-sided and you are the only one expending and giving of your time and energy? Are there people in your life who like to gossip or are always “Debbie Downers”/victim mentality? Take account of all these people in your life and assess whether you need to set firmer boundaries with them and give less of your time and energy to, or if you need to gracefully end the relationship altogether.
Only you will know what is the best course of action moving forward. Once you have completed this step, then it is important to make more time and room for the people in your life who do lift you up and boost your energy and mood after spending time with them.
Protect yourself from energy draining environments
Much like the people in your life, it is important to take account of the environments you spend time in that either drain or uplift your energy. Have you ever felt constantly feeling down or depleted in a certain work or other environment? Or alternatively have you ever felt consistently rejuvenated and refreshed after spending time in your favorite place?
Whatever environments are depleting you, even if it’s your home environment, try changing it in the best way you can. If it is your work environment, consider switching jobs or to a different position that would shift your work space. If it is your home, consider changing the furniture arrangement, changing the color of the walls, getting more plants or inspiring pieces of art.
Our environments that we spend the most time in will have the most impact on our energy and mental health. It is important to pay attention to how these environments are affecting you and change them as best you can and as needed.
Final thoughts
Energy is all around us, and yes even you are made up of energy. You are affected by this energy surrounding us everyday, which is why it is so important to pay attention to it. Whether you are an energy sensitive person or not, everything you consume, hold onto, spend time with, etc, is still affecting you. So, in order to feel more energy in your everyday life and have the most productive and fulfilling life, it is essential to use these tools to release the energy that holds you back.
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